Toxic

I am thankful I have family and friends who are straight with me and don't sugar coat things. When I am doing things I shouldn't I know they will always set me straight. How can someone watch a family member or friend lead an unhealthy and toxic lifestyle and not say anything. And of course these same people are the ones who talk bad about you when you call their loved one out. Hey atleast I can say I care and I tried Amd I didn't ignore. What did you do?